The Importance Of Kissing In A Relationship

It’s no surprise that couples who kiss more often tend to be more satisfied with their relationship.

Having a good lip-lock with someone you love is breath taking. But other than just the good feeling, kissing is also an important part in romantic relationships. A study by Oxford University have shown that kissing helps in determining potential partners and, once in a relationship, it may be a way of getting someone you’re interested in to stick around. So if you’re wondering how important kissing is to a relationship, the answer is “very.”

The Importance Of Kissing In A Relationship


Kissing is a big decider of attraction and is a much more pleasurable experience when you’re genetically compatible with your significant other. Also, each kiss is a mix of chemical clues, textures, and tastes that can enhance attraction or wreck it. That’s probably why most men and women loss interest after a bad first kiss. It is not necessarily about being a bad kisser, but rather not strengthening the attraction. Imagine your partner depriving you of morning kisses all because both of you have not washed your mouth – this simply means the both of you are not genetically compatible.

Here are some reasons that show the importance of kissing in a relationship.


The more time and effort we put into making sure we kiss our partner throughout the day, the stronger the relationship will be overall. This is because lips are filled with sensory nerves that send a huge amount of biological information to our brains, prompting it to produce oxytocin. “This hormone is most commonly known as the love hormone because it creates intimacy, trust, and builds healthy relationships”. The higher those level of oxytocin, the higher your capacity to love.


A kiss can communicate to your significant other that you love and miss them, and can also communicate that you’re ready to get busy in the other room. It can equally express tenderness, passion, and enthusiasm. At the same time, how you kiss can also show your partner that you’re bored, not happy or you are not really feeling it. That being said, be mindful of how you kiss your significant other. “Being able to slow down for a long passionate kiss allows you to take a minute to truly be with your partner as his/her lover.”


Naturally, kissing relaxes us and is also an instant stimulant. When we kiss, it stimulates our brain to release a mix of feel-good chemicals that calm and excite us at the same time.  When this happens, the desire to connect, bond, and get close to our partner is raised.


A deep sensual kiss sets the stage for intensified sexual pleasure. When kissing, you can show what kind of lover you are or will be, since kissing is a good indicator of how great the lovemaking will be. If a partner seems distant or not all there when you’re kissing, there might be just as much disconnection during lovemaking. If the kiss is slow and passionate, lovemaking may be just as tender.


Often in our lifestyles of hurry-up-and-go, kissing our significant other may seem like a passing thought or even a waste of time. But it’s the one chance besides lovemaking that allows us to disconnect from our busy lives. “Allow kissing to be a moment in itself, without having to lead to something more. Also, stop thinking about your to-do list when you’re in a kiss. Instead be present and experience all of the sensations”. Because fully being in the experience will further build connection and intimacy between you and your significant other.


Kissing is a great way to express yourself and bring some freedom and spontaneity to your relationship. So, you and your partner need to take time to explore, taste, lick, and touch each other’s lips. See if you can discover something new; like kissing your partner while gazing into each other’s eyes. You may find out that it’s a more personal and a deeper experience.

The next time you’re about to lock-lips with your significant other, remember that it’s a fun moment between you and someone special, but it’s also an important and healthy part of your relationship together. So, don’t brush a kiss aside as something that is not important, take a little time to do it right.

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