First stop, find out what women really want and need in bed, and what buttons to push to give her intense orgasms and make her end up basking in the afterglow of the most orgasmic feel it ever crossed her body.
Believe me boys, it’s not that difficult to give her mind blowing intense orgasms.
There are only three main things that are of utmost importance and that you should never neglect:
A good foreplay, indulging in good-quality clitoris stroking and mastering the G spot techniques that will most surely set her on fire.
Read this article carefully and start applying the techniques tonight to give her intense orgasms!
1) Foreplay for dummies
Newsflash: foreplay is about quality, not quantity.
Here’s how to get the balance right if you want her to have intense orgasms during intercourse.
a) Be into it. The female body isn’t a car engine, and I’m sure your girlfriend didn’t employ you as a mechanic to do a “job”.
Being turned on for a woman is as much psychological as it is physical, which is why one of her biggest turn-on is you being turned on.
For a woman, there’s no such thing as a man being too passionate in the sack, so let loose.
Also, know that foreplay doesn’t necessarily refer to the minutes before the actual intercourse; it is the combined effect of your behavior long before any sex takes place.
“There is something crucial before physical foreplay.
It is all of the talking and actions that have happened during the last twelve hours or so of togetherness”, says Aline Zoldbrod, author of Sex Talk.
So make sure you are showing her your feeling of passion every time, not just when you want to get lucky and… score some.
When it does come time to get to business, don’t be shy and play around with different moves.
Maybe what gets her off is having her toes sucked, or her neck bitten, or her bottom spanked, but the only way to find out is to have lots of practice.
It’s actually more exciting if you are doing it without the pressure of
moving on to penetrative sex; this way you are keeping her guessing,
which does wonderful things for her arousal.
After all, it’s true what Mae West said: “Too much of a good thing is wonderful.”
b) Target her other erogenous zones. “Don’t there” might be the star of the show, but it’s not the whole cast. Touch her all over, feeling and exploring every bit.
Nibble a little on everything, from head to toe. Some of the hottest spots are the neck, ear lobes, tummy and inner thighs.
Or try massage oils and toys.
c) Watch her. If she’s moaning, convulsing or sighing, then whatever you’re doing is working.
Every girl’s different, so there are no rules- just take your lust for her and your slightly dirty imagination, and start experimenting.
2) Acknowledge the importance of the clitoris if you wish to give her intense orgasms.
The female body isn’t so simple. Sure, it feels good for her when your penis glides back and forth inside her vagina, yet these motions alone probably won’t escalate her ecstasy level to the point where she will climax.
That’s because there’s little or no stimulation of the clitoris, the
tiny bliss button about a centimeter north of the vagina that is the
real key to achieving an orgasm.
“The vast majority of nerves that give a woman sexual pleasure are located in the clitoris, not in the vagina, so penetration alone likely won’t trigger an orgasm”, says Jane Bogart, author of
Sexploration: The Ultimate Guide to Feeling Truly Great in Bed.
All those movie scenes where the woman moan with intense orgasm and pleasure while her partner pounds away?
Don’t fall for that. Another factor that trips up a chick’s climax potential is that the clitoris is sooo incredibly sensitive, it’s difficult for her to reach Kingdom Come unless you’re hitting the right balance of pressure and speed.
The clitoris and the penis have about the same amount of nerves, but the clitoris packs them into a much smaller space, so it’s more responsive to the slightest touch.
The fact that the clitoris is not inside the vagina might seem, at first sight, like Mother Nature’s little joke, but imagine if you’d thrust against it during sex, given how sensitive it is. She’d be crying out in pain, not pleasure!
3) The G spot road map
Because I know you hate asking for directions, here’s the info you need to surprise her tonight. And yes, G spot is orgasm’s first cousin.
What the hell is it?
The elusive G spot has been described as the Loch Ness monster of the sexual world because it can be so hard to find.
But it equals guaranteed pleasure. Just so you know what to look for, it’s a small kidney-shaped piece of flesh that feels like wrinkled skin and is located approximately 5-8 cm inside the vagina, directly behind the pubic bone.
So, how do I find it?
The G spot can only be felt during arousal, so sped time stoking her fires before going exploring.
Get her to lie on her back, knees bent, with her feet flat on the bed and a pillow under her butt.
Slide your index finger inside her, making sure the pad of your finger is touching the top wall (where her belly button is).
The area around the G spot should feel smooth and taut, but the spot itself will feel fleshy, puffy or wrinkled.
But what do I do with it?
The G spot responds to firm pressure, but be aware that it can prompt many women to feel a brief need to urinate.
Use your index finger to put pressure on the spot by gently tapping it or making the <come here> motion.
When massaging her G spot, it should start to swell and firm up.
Don’t get freaked out if she ejaculates a small amount of fluid when she comes- this is completely normal.
4) Lend her your orgasm strategies
You guys tend to ask on your instincts more, especially when it comes to sex.
You do what feels good without over thinking it. If your girlfriend adopted your mentality she would definitely climax easier and more frequently than before.
In the name of sexual equality, I think it’s only appropriate that you lend her some of your bedroom mentality.
Here’s what you should teach her to make her scream with intense orgasms.
a) That she should always feel doable.
You could spend the entire day eating junk food and still want sex when you get home.
But if a woman eats too much- or feel bloated or have a “fat” or “ugly” day- she often shuts down her sex drive.
The reason? “Women have this notion that they don’t deserve sex unless
they look and feel absolutely perfect, but that’s total crap”, says
Cynthia Gentry, author of What Men Really Want In Bed.
When you pick up on her feelings and realize she doesn’t want it, you are less inclined to ask for it, which only reinforces her thinking that she’s not sexually attractive.
The result is a lot less sex for everyone involved.
What you should do: tell her that you want her anytime, anyhow, and that you don’t care about the small stuff, like if her skin is soft enough or she’s a bit bloated from eating dinner.
If she realizes that there’s no point worrying about the small stuff, she’ll be able to truly let go and enjoy climaxing sex with you.
b) That little things are big turn-ons.
It doesn’t take much to get you excited.
If you spot a millimeter of skin between her top and jeans, you start thinking about what she looks like naked… and presto, you are in the mood.
Statistics show that most men think about sex throughout the day, so it’s only natural that you associate things with sex.
By the time your girlfriend gets home, the sexual tension has been building up for so long that you are raring to go.
But she works differently. Women think about sex when it’s time for sex, but they often don’t allow seemingly non-sexual things to trigger thoughts of that kind of pleasure.
What you should do: teach her to think in a sexual way.
Tell her to open herself up to the possibility of arousal at any time and help her achieve intense orgasms. Start by exercising this together:
Take a copy of a sexy magazine and dare her to tell you how the naked pictures are making her feel.
She’ll soon pick up the speed and arousal will happen just as natural for her as it does for you.
And this will make the experience of sex much better than ever before.
c) That her crotch is gorgeous.
From the time you were a little boy, you worshiped your package- you played with it, took extra care to protect it, and sometimes referred to it as if it were a person.
“The love affair men have with their genitalia actually helps them have better sex, because they know every inch of it and what touches and moves bring maximum pleasure”, says Yvonne K. Fulbright, author of Pleasuring: The Secrets to Sexual Satisfaction and giving your girl multiple hip-shaking intense orgasms.
Women on the other hand typically don’t have the same kind of self-love.
Most women focus only on the clitoris and ignore other parts of their genitalia.
What you should do: show her that there are many other spots that can be arousing, and that it will enhance her sex life if she becomes familiar with them.
Have her engage in a masturbation experience while you are watching, and tell her what spots to touch, thus making sure she doesn’t miss any.
d) That practice makes perfect.
You make sure you have as much sex as possible- solo or with your girlfriend.
And there’s a biological reason why. You have more testosterone, which is one of the factors that make you want sex more.
What you should do: tell her that climaxing frequently can boost her sex drive, making it more akin to yours.
Having an orgasm actually helps her produce more testosterone, which will make her want sex more often.
That means that even if she’s not with you, she should be regularly bringing herself to climax.
Masturbating is a great way for her to experiment and see what works for her, and she shouldn’t deny herself the pleasure.
e) That it’s all about focus.
Outside the bedroom, women have a huge advantage over men because they are so much better at multitasking.
But in bed, it can be seriously detrimental.
Because they tend to think of many different things during sex, they often get thrown off track when it comes to enjoying the act and reaching an orgasm.
You, on the other hand, focus solely on what you are doing: how it feels when you thrust into her or the way her breasts feel against your chest.
What you should do: advise her to practice paying attention to exactly
what she is seeing and feeling, since it will be much easier for her to
stay in the moment and enjoy herself.
When you caress her, tell her to really think about how her body is reacting. Is she getting goose pumps?
Does she feel herself warm up under your hands?
If she stops worrying about how she looks or the way she performs, she will be able to feel highly erotic, which is the first step to achieving the much desired intense orgasm.
5) Mattress tricks for intense orgasm hits.
The secrets to prolonging her pleasure. So you’ve learned the basics, but is it enough?
Of course not, not on my watch at least! I’ve prepared a generous orgasm learning man manual, filled with tricks that you wouldn’t even believe work so well.
All you have to do is try them one at a time. It shouldn’t be that hard, now would it?
6) Revisit the classics.
There’s a reason why the missionary position remains the most popular way for many couples to have sex.
It’s the mashed potatoes of making love: you know exactly what it will taste like and you know it will make you happy.
Also, it’s among the best positions that guarantee the presence of the much eluded orgasm.
Of course, as long as you are doing it right. The secret here is to obtain a deeper-than-ever degree of penetration. Avodah Offit, author of The Sexual Self, suggests you try this sexy variation:
“Have her pull her knees up to her chest, then spread them just wide enough for you to get between them.
With her calves on either sides of your back, she should support your weight on the back of her thighs.
If she wants to move, she can rock back and forth with you.”
Well my wife’s own personal orgasm surefire is a slight modification of the classic woman-on-top position, which she like to call the CSI position (Clit Scene Investigation).
The fact that the clitoris is the main character in this scenario makes a world of difference as far as her orgasm is concerned.
The keens are the pivotal point of action here. While you are lying on your back, have her straddle you, facing forwards.
She should rest her hands on your thighs while you hold her knees and lift them a couple of centimeters off the bed.
Keep the penetration shallow and rock back and forth- the whole point is your penis will come out and gently touch her clitoris each time you thrust.
7) Master the digit foreplay.
A good hand job will make her lady parts scream with pleasure.
A bad one though will leave her sore, frustrated and dissatisfied.
The best technique to go at it: grasp the outer lips of her vulva with your thumb and index finger of one hand, while running the middle finger of your other hand over and around the entrance to her vagina, feeling the wetness coming alive.
For more intense sensations, get your mouth involved also.
The contrast between your dry fingers and your hot and moist tongue will leave her clueless about where all that pleasure is coming from.
8) A threesome you will want to try.
You need three essential things for sex that guarantees full-body orgasms: knowledge (which you are already getting by reading this article).
The right attitude (to be patient, caring and understanding with her and how her body chooses to react sometimes; remember, not being able to have an orgasm is not her fault), and chemistry (the higher the passion between the two of you, the bigger the pleasure that arises from said passion).
9) Teach her the solo player technique. Often in a stable relationship, the frequency of masturbation sessions drops off in the case of women.
This is all well and good, but when there’s a lack of orgasm, which
breeds negativity and frustration, many women associate it with the sex
act itself, which may be completely wrong.
That’s why it’s crucial that she is able to make herself come satisfactorily, so that she is sure that the problem does not come from her side.
However, the way she self-pleasures is also important.
“Most people fail to take the best possible pleasure from masturbation because they do it to relieve themselves, rather than for pleasure”, says Vera Bodansky, author of The Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm.
In order for her masturbating routine to be pleasurable, preparations are important.
Some women prefer to take advantage of the heat of the moment, while other would rather take their time, maybe take a bath first, or perhaps read an erotic novel to get some saucy ideas.
However, the most crucial thing is not to rush things up if you really want to ensure that the pleasure is intense and blissful for her.
Before getting down to business, she should make sure she is pleasantly warm and stimulated.
This is where you come in, to give her a hand.
Experiment with what feels good for her, tease her nipples, run your hands over the whole pubic region, then leave her to finish the job.
“Masturbation is the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure”, said Thomas Szasz, author of Psychiatry: The Science of Lies.
Make sure she knows that.
l) Yoga tricks that help her to reach intense orgasm. New research shows that yoga can heighten arousal and make it easier to climax.
Women who practice such techniques are turned on more easily, according to the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
Here are the exercises and moves that she should be doing if she wants ultimate satisfaction in bed:
#1. The four-second breath trick. Take any yoga class there is and the teacher will always tell you the same thing: focus your breath!
Inhaling and exhaling seem basic, and yet many of us are doing it the wrong way. The steadier her breath, the better her body can relax.
New-age stuff aside, using this technique will indeed make it easier for her to orgasm.
Yoga-style breathing not only prevents tension from short-circuiting her orgasm, but it also delivers oxygen down there, making it easier for her to go over the edge.
All she has to do is inhale and exhale evenly- two seconds in, two seconds out- as she feels herself starting to reach her peak.
#2. Be Zen. Nothing snuffs out an orgasm faster than wondering whether she unplugged her hair straightener.
To get back into the moment, she should try centering herself.
Yoga teachers often tell students to concentrate on a spot on the wall or floor to help them focus.
She can apply the same practice in bed.
#3.Yoga-friendly positions. Yoga postures not only look hot, but they also relax and condition the muscles in her groin area, priming her body for sex.
Here’s how to tweak your favorite position to get the benefits: in missionary, she should put her legs over your shoulders so her calves rest on your back.
During girl-on-top, she should straddle you with her knees on the bed, and grab her ankles to mimic the camel.
For doggie style, have sex in downward dog- that is, she should touch the floor so that her body makes an inverted V. Yoga techniques can also help you, in case you have premature ejaculation problems.
They help you extend your performance and experience more pleasure, so do it together!